First Date Mistakes

I am so stupid. For the longest time my automatic suggestion for a first date was dinner. Why, why, why? It is the worst possible way to start.

:holds head in hands:

A dinner is the wrong choice for the following reasons:

~ Dinner is too formal, even at an informal restaurant.

~ Dinner with a (probably) complete stranger is odd no matter what your intention.

~ Dinner assumes you and/or your date will want to stay for more than ten minutes.

~ Dinner highlights sometimes nasty biological necessities. Chewing, for instance.

~ Dinner makes a relationship statement before you have written a script.

~ Dinner involves problematic clothing choices (particularly for women).

~ Dinner requires investment beyond that which the fundamentals require.

~ Dinner is a performance which impedes natural interaction.

~ Dinner raises the question of 'Who Pays?'

~ Dinner as a first date doesn't allow for enjoyment of the food.



In short it's too much, too soon. Too many moving parts all resting on.....nothing.

Someone slap me, please.