State of the Union

After a couple of months' reflection, a few thoughts:


+ men want women

+ women want men


Some motivations last longer than a tv season. Additionally, it is mostly the case that:


+ men want to (eventually) find the one woman with whom to live HEA

+ women want to (eventually) find the one man with whom to live HEA


No revelation there, either, although I think we underestimate men's desire for this, especially as marriage appears to provide more physical and mental health benefits for them.

Notwithstanding part II, above:


+ men often pursue women diabolically unsuitable to the job of living HEA

+ women often pursue men chronically unable to live with them HEA


Which is fine, because previous generations are horrible at passing on their experience, and so we need to learn the same lessons about failing at relationships. Each generation relearns afresh. However:


+ men often settle rather than quit

+ women often settle rather than quit


I think the reason we sabotage ourselves in the search for the right person is that it's fun chasing and being chased - we get off on pursing and being pursued. In short, the game itself becomes the objective.

There comes a point in every relationship - except with the one - when we need to call it off. It might be after the first date or it might be after a year, but bailing will be the best course for both of you.

That's the trick IMO. Knowing when to jump, and knowing when to stick.



Bottoms Up, Gamers.