Showing posts with label maturity. Show all posts
Showing posts with label maturity. Show all posts
Wednesday, January 23, 2013
Better Be Good To Me
How about that human genome, eh? What a t'riffic little jobby that bad boy is, explaining everything from hammer toes to serial killer tendencies, plus the really important stuff like male pattern baldness.
My genetic predisposition is like a bad Vuitton knock-off - somewhere in the past lies a quality original. Unfortunately, for successive generations the leather provenance has been on a downward slide, and the stitching...well, let's just say you wouldn't fool anyone at your local pub.
But there is hope. The flip side of the genetic blackjack game is the environmental input we all receive. I like to think of this as the role model side of life, because that's how junior learns how to behave. Parents form the front line, with (in my day, anyway) television as a backstop. You'd be surprised at the extent of Gilligan's Island's influence in my own life. (I'm Team Mary Ann BTW. Ginger was way too high maintenance. Who takes ball gowns to a tropical island?)
If I had to plant a flag in this argument, I'd say that environment - the influence of role models - is more important than genetics. Young'uns start learning and mimicking right from day one. Seems to me that there's almost zero inherited ability in the higher social skills area; finding a decent mate, for instance. Discerning what kind of behaviour divides the good people from the bad, for another, is all observed knowledge.
I'm pretty sure this is why we all have to learn the mating lessons from scratch every time. Our biology is amazing, but not coded for understanding the difference between a Coach bag and a grocery bag.
Bottoms Up, Quality Mavens.
Labels:
affirmation,
children,
finding a mate,
genes,
maturity,
parenthood,
role models
Friday, November 23, 2012
Slowhand
The saying goes:
"If only I knew then what I know now. I'd be cleaning up."
This is completely cock-eyed. Now I'm noticing my maturity - mostly in this grey hair that appeared (apparently) overnight - I see it for what it is. Maturity is another word for justifying loss of adventurousness.
It breaks down like this. When you're young and wide-eyed, you:
+ understand women only at the fringe
+ have no fear if she's bad for you
+ don't care whether she's good for you
+ concern yourself only with starting something
Experience, actually bad experiences, are a proxy for maturity. But I now think that a more useful maturity is one that maintains a willingness to be unafraid and a knowing of where real dangers lie.
Call it having slow hands with quick feet.
Bottoms Up, Young Singles.
Labels:
cheese,
dating,
maturity,
older women,
understanding
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