Showing posts with label jealousy. Show all posts
Showing posts with label jealousy. Show all posts
Tuesday, February 5, 2013
The Green-Eyed Monster
Most monsters have at least one redeeming quality. King Kong had a weakness for dames. Vampires are hipster fashionistas. Even those funster Zombies forever enjoy cinematic popularity despite their BO. But the Green-Eyed Monster is unmitigated awful.
The fact that Hollywood and Burbank haven't found a way to popularize the Jealousy Beast tells us how bad it is. Every story arc needs a slice of hope; but this....this thing has none.
Aside:
I hadn't heard jealousy referred to as "the green-eyed monster" until I dated one. I was chatting to a female colleague/friend at a party when this ex dragged me away and demanded an explanation. After she cooled it, that's the terminology she used to self-describe. This episode struck me as completely weird, and was a crystal-clear harbinger which I ignored. To my cost.
End Aside.
Jealousy - at least the romantic kind - is tied up with self-esteem, trust, security, honesty, sexuality and faithfulness in one giant ganglia of hot blood and mean tricks. The dictionary keyword here is 'resentment', a telling description if ever.
We like to think we can intellectualize any human behaviour...at least I do. But jealousy is one of the few emotions for which there is no logical back-door. It's visceral, animal, and therefore almost uncontrollable. And it speaks entirely to the emoter, not the emoter's target.
Bottoms Up, Reactors.
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green-eyed monster,
imagination,
intimacy,
jealousy,
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sexuality,
trust,
truth
Thursday, November 5, 2009
Jealousy

No question, I suffer from jealousy. Whether it is because of fear - of loss or abandonment - or something more egoic like humiliation, it's not good.
~ In jealousy there is more self-love than love. François, Duc de La Rochefoucauld, Maxims, 1665
At least in my understanding. One clear factor I discovered yesterday was that there is another view, which is that jealousy in a relationship can cure the glue; it can actually make the relationship.
~ Never waste jealousy on a real man: it is the imaginary man that supplants us all in the long run. George Bernard Shaw
I am a fan of detachment in life, or cool engagement as a friend characterizes it. Working on consciously distinguishing between emotion and what's really going on helps give me perspective. And yet jealousy withstands all assaults. Mine is un-tame-able.
~ Jealousy is no more than feeling alone against smiling enemies. Elizabeth Bowen
What is it about jealousy that incites people to "...rip out the other chick's eyes..."? Why do normally calm people react with protective and offensive violence?
~ I've spent most of my life walking under that hovering cloud, jealousy, whose acid raindrops blurred my vision and burned holes in my heart. Astrid Alauda
Should I work towards defusing all my hot-headed irrational reactions, or does jealousy serve me in some unseen way? It's a mystery to me.
~ Jealousy is the dragon in paradise; the hell of heaven; and the most bitter of the emotions because associated with the sweetest. A.R. Orage
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detachment,
jealousy,
real life,
relationships,
swingers
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